This morning, I came across this article “Why You Should Never Date A Girl Who Travels” at http://matadornetwork.com/life/dont-date-girl-travels/

Thinking about it… I want to travel of course. To live the lovely lifestyle of an educated nomad. Right now, I love the solo travel life. But some day, I hope to find someone who can keep up and join in on the ride.

With that in mind, I wrote a response to Adi Zarsadias’s “Why You Should Never Date A Girl Who Travels”. I’m entitling it “Why You Should Date a Girl Who Travels”.

Enjoy!

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“Why You Should Date a Girl Who Travels” – by Anika Mikkelson

Fall in love with her messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Kiss her like the sun has kissed her skin, now far from fair like it once was. Trace its multiple tan lines, wounds, and bites. Listen to the stories each flaw on her skin has to tell.

Date a girl who travels. She is hard to please and will test your limits. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Instead, take her on new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. Instead of showing off, take her to climb a rock or jump out of an airplane.

Date a girl who travels, and be prepared to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. You won’t have to go to parties at Republiq. And you will never shell out over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.

Chances are, she won’t want to hold a steady job. If she does, she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. That means more time to love, learn, and grow together. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She knows her own power. She has her own dreams and is working towards them. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography, or something that requires creativity and imagination. She won’t waste your time complaining about her boring job because she’s in love with her life.

When you date a girl who travels, expect to find her well-educated. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely, but is learning from first-hand experiences. She has a master’s degree yet is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming, and that doesn’t bother her. She doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

Date a girl who travels, for she has chosen a life of spontaneity. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address, and doesn’t expect you to offer her one. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch or fancy jewelry. You won’t have to wait for her to get ready for hours on end. With her by your side, you will wake with the sun and sleep with the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.

Date a girl who travels, and get ready for the strength of a woman who tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. It will come naturally. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.

She will never need you. But she’ll be happy to have you by her side. While she’s pitching a tent and screwing her own fins without your help, show her you care by starting the campfire and gathering the ropes. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She’ll be more content with pigs in a blanket or s’mores than sushi or Starbucks.

She’ll allow you ‘guy time’ as she is independent and will take off on solo travels on occasion. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. But don’t worry. She’s safe. She’s busy living in the present.  She won’t push you into marriages and making babies. The two of you will have long conversations with strangers. She will show you many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you if you slow down, but will challenge you to strive for more.

So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her stationary. Be prepared to go far.

We all know there’s a burning question you’re too shy to ask : Has Miss Maps fallen in love during her travels? Click here for the answer! (Make sure you’ve got a tissue on hand) xoxAnika

9 Comments

  1. This post has been recreated on both sides of the debate so many times, however every time it’s so fresh! Your post is beautiful and perfectly encapsulates that insatiable travelling spirit!

    1. Thank you, Lauren. You’re right – since this was written, I’ve come across so many more similar posts. Looks like we’ve all got the same attitude 🙂 And funny thing is- although there are two sides, they seem to all tell the same story of happiness and freedom!

  2. hey!.. donde has estado toda mi vida? creo que nos separaron para que no nos encontráramos, espero no cambies la manera de pensar de verdad y nunca pares de viajar si te veo en el camino te ayudare a seguir en el, pero si te detienes a verme tranquila no abra problema yo soy igual o peor que tu.

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